***was wondering if this should be in the Relationship section. but it goes across the board it seems (for me)

I have been told that I am passive aggressive. I looked up the definition and it doesn't match the description people have when they tell me that....They usually say it when I ask / say something indirect to cause a direct action. For example, today I had to wash my hands and someone was standing in front of the sink...so I said, "hey [joined the conversation for a little bit, then said] I need to wash my hands, I don't feel like using the bathroom sink" ---so the person said, "so what do you want me to do" laughing..."oh, you want me to move" -- We are all laughing at this point, but I'm thinking...wow, I do this so naturally, I didn't realize it was noticable.

It was funny but I was also told this in relationships too.

I don't have a problem with it - and I like to laugh about it when people point it out, but I think I'm going to take this as a challenge to be more direct. Ask for what I want in a more direct manner. I think I've lived my whole life interacting indirectly. Keeping the peace. I think it might actually be more attractive if I'm more direct.

((( experimenting )))

Will keep you posted.

ALSO - What people call passive aggressive, I call nicety.

Your thoughts? Have I been passive aggressive with you? LOL (tell me)

i've never really understood that term. based on what you describe, i can see you thinking that it's just you being nice. you will get what you want faster if you're more direct and you can still be nice and polite while doing so.

you've always been direct with me as far as i can tell.