Do your close friends have to like...

Tizzy Lizz^ · Subject: Do your close friends have to like... Sun Apr 20, 2008 1:47 pm

I was watching an episode of Sex in the City and I got this idea...

Do you care if your close friends like your boyfriend / girlfriend / spouse / potential spouse?

Do they have to approve, get along with them?

What about relatives?

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Tizzy Lizz^ wrote:

I was watching an episode of Sex in the City and I got this idea...

Do you care if your close friends like your boyfriend / girlfriend / spouse / potential spouse?

Do they have to approve, get along with them?

What about relatives?

I could care less. The ones my people think are the "best" for me are the ones i dont like and vice versa. When i'm really into someone, they dont like them.
So....to avoid any negativity, i'm never in a hurry for people to meet the people i date.

alyson · Number of posts: 1131 Registration date: 2007-01-04

i don't care who likes who, all that matters is who will make me happy. no one liked my ex, and he didn't like anyone in my family. it DEFINITELY made things more difficult for me though.

BUT, now that i have 2 daughters to think of, i do want them to get along with whoever i choose.

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A_Str8 · Subject: Re: Do your close friends have to like... Mon Apr 21, 2008 2:13 pm

Everyone has opinions. I'll always listen to and think about another person's opinions, especially if they're someone whose judgement I trust. Sometimes other folks can open your eyes to things you didn't notice. In the end though, I make up my own mind.

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sheeks84 · Number of posts: 96 Localisation: Philly Registration date: 2008-02-25

I feel the same way A_str8. I especially value my Momma's opinion. She's good at feeling people's spirits, as am I but she's the Momma. Other than that, I take other's opinions with a grain of salt for the most part. It's funny though, the people who are closest to me and whose opinions I value most don't really have much to say about who I (used to) date. It's always the friends/ family who I always look at like this Suspect

who have so much to say about everything and every-damn-body.

the_whisper · Number of posts: 315 Registration date: 2007-01-23

They don't have to but it's always nicer and much much easier when they do. My lil sis is usually really good at assessing but I only need her opinion when I am unsure and if I'm that shaky about someone then I shouldn't be with them anyways.

Tizzy Lizz^ · Number of posts: 2298 Localisation: Illadelph Registration date: 2007-01-03

the_whisper wrote:

They don't have to but it's always nicer and much much easier when they do.

True.

In the end, I do value my mom's view (she read a person right the first time...she can tell me who's really a friend, who's a womanizer, a sweetheart, a keeper, and everything from the gate). My dad's view (he's intuitive too, but it takes a little longer to for him size people up sometimes). Their opinions matter more to me now that I'm older - especially when I have doubt.

If in my heart, I know and believe in who I'm with, then nobody's opinion matters but mine. Nobody has to like it, call, or stop by either. I figure, they will catch up and see things my way eventually, by seeing how happy I am Smile

sam I am · Number of posts: 476 Registration date: 2007-01-08

my children's opinion of my spouse is paramount. no doubt. outside of that there are only a few friends (3 i can think of right now) who i trust enough to be significantly concerned with how they see the woman i love.

at the end of the day nobody knows whats for me except me. period. the last place i ever need to seek validation from others is in my relationship.
firstly, i got ish with me, too! Laughing

friends often have a hard time judging without bias. in a relationship your friends are your friends. and if you dont agree if the relationship ends- you'll see the division. from this slanted, loyalty-blurred, outside perspective thier input may poison to what i'm building.
secondly, there is nothing emptier than the time spent together in a dead ass relationship that looks good in public. the crowd can't do nothin for me.
i do me. if the path im on turns, bends, buckles, crashes or goes on until my sunset i'll live with it.

Mar · Number of posts: 29 Age: 31 Registration date: 2008-05-11

naw they don't have to like them... but dig this im going to make sure that the sig other's best friend likes me cause that stuff they said on hitch is mad true. Think about it thats the one that probably knows more about her than you do in the beginning anyway so there's already a greater level of trust there so if the best friend likes you then cool beans...

on the other hand if my boys don't like say spouse or soon to be spouse or serious girlfriend then guess what i guess we wont be hanging out as much!!! lol

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A_Str8 · Subject: Re: Do your close friends have to like... Mon May 12, 2008 10:03 am

sam I am wrote:

secondly, there is nothing emptier than the time spent together in a dead ass relationship that looks good in public.

Damn. i wasn't even thinking about that side, but you're right. After I ended one relationship, people kept telling me that the girl was so good for me and I shouldn't have ended it. I even had one person come and tell me that there was nothing wrong with the girl, I broke up with her because nothing could satisfy me. She tried to hide her opinion by telling me "her friend" was saying that stuff.

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im going to make sure that the sig other's best friend likes me

I really appreciate when my friends make an effort to get to know and get along with my lady and I appreciate that my lady does the same with my friends. I try to do the same with her friends. To me, it's similar to the idea that "a friend of a friend is a friend of mine."

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